How to Keep Going When Things Get Hard
You’re sitting there, reading this blog, probably scrolling for the important information to help you when sh*t getting real. You’re probably going through a hard time right now, or you wouldn’t read this blog.
I get it! I’ve been there… I think we all have been! So, whatever you take away from this post, please know you’re not alone! I’m right here with you!
Self-discovery and healing from your past isn’t easy work! Plus stepping in your personal power doesn’t always go according to plan. It takes practice and patients. What do you do when you feel like giving up? Like you’re done with life? Done with trying to fix yourself! Done with everyone’s sh*t. What then? What if you can’t go another day of doing the same things? What if you can’t think of another way to step out of your comfort zone? What if you can't be bothered to be a good person today?
Did I mention I get it?
Actually, just a few days ago, I was crying telling myself I want to give up! I want to give up on my business and go back to my corporate job because whatever I’m currently doing it isn’t working. I’m speaking to crickets; I’m not getting any engagement on social media and seriously so much more! Like your heart in the bottom of your stomach type of feeling. The tears so fresh you really are willing to give up… that was just the other day
A few months ago, I wanted to give up on everything. Things were so terrible between the father of my child and me, all I did was cry, stress out, freak out, and I hated being the better person over and over and thinking about how this benefited my daughter when I believed he never really thought about her one freaking time! Plus, I was postpartum and alone 80% of the time. I think I actually cried to my mom on this phone at least a dozen times: I can’t do this anymore. I want to give up. I can’t keep fighting anymore; I can’t keep going. Just typing that brings me back to those moments and how desperate I was to give on everything!
Even 4 years ago, when this all started, I contemplated giving up. I contemplated suicide over and over, for months. Until I snapped out of it one night, and it changed my entire life.
The moral of those stories? I'm still going. I’m happier today. Things are better between me and my ex… and if I gave up on my business, you wouldn't have the opportunity to read this blog! You’re probably thinking that’s easy for you to say, you don’t know my life. You’re right, I don’t know your life. I know mine though, and I know that I should have been dead years ago, I could be in jail, I could still be in a cycle of misery after the child molestation and being raped twice as an adult. Really, that’s just the beginning of my baggage. It goes on… and on… and on… and on. I am no stranger to sh*t being real, to drama, to real life. I may not know the details of your life, but I do know what it’s like to have odds stacked up against you time and time again. I know what it’s like when people pray for your downfall rather than your grace. I know what it's like to fall and get back up fall, and get back up like it’s the only thing I knew how to do. (If you're interested in further reading on how to get back up for the 13th round, click here.)
Getting back up every single time is possible. Staying strong is possible. Hanging on one more time is possible. I’m going to share with you 5 tips on how to stay on the self-discovery journey when things are hard, but this can apply to life in general!
5 Ways to Stand Strong
Allow yourself to take a break. Things aren’t always easy. Either you’re working all the time, dealing with friends and family, or working through self-discovery and healing from the past. All of it starts to bottle up, and you might feel a little crazy. It’s okay to sit in front of the TV and do nothing. No matter how dirty the house is and whatever kind of work you have going on. As long as you’re not using it as a permanent escape, it’s cool. I don’t care what other people say. If you want to binge watch that TV all day, do it! Then get back after it. It’s cool to take breaks. Your life will do amazing things when you listen to your body and do what it’s begging you to do.
Distraction is okay! Sometimes dealing with whatever is going on right then and there is not in your best interest. Maybe you're triggered, perhaps you're exhausted, whatever the case may be, it’s okay to seek a distraction and then come back to it. The distraction might actually help you deal with whatever is going on more constructively.
Get on the self-care bandwagon. I talk about self-care helping you stay neutral, and it's a fact. Self-care isn't about getting your nails done once in a while, it’s about helping you stay at peace. Helping you stay at peace will help when sh*t is hitting the fan over and over and over again. It enables you to stay strong. Get a routine, stick with it, and do things you like! Just as a little bonus read, if you’re interested in self-love, click here.
Add some fun to your life. Life is so freaking serious all the time. Take a break and do something fun. Do something that makes you laugh until you pee your pants! Do something that you haven’t done that you’ve been dying to do. Life doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. I’m guilty of not having any fun because I’m grinding it out every spare minute. Then when I do something fun, I’m like: oh yeah! I love this! It totally recharges you!
Accept and surrender. This one, to me, is the hardest because it means you let go of control! You accept things as they are and know you can’t control everything and you let it go. Meaning you let it play out and whatever comes from it, comes from it. It’s usually positive and usually better when you let the universe do its thing! But again, this is one of those tips that takes a little bit of self-awareness and work. But it's worth it. I can't explain how much stress has left my life when I accept and surrender. It's amazing!
I know things get hard. I know how easy it is to give up, and you want to just let all go, but you’re a fighter… you’re a survivor! Hang in there just a little bit longer. Use these tips to help you stand strong against the storm that’s happening in your life. You’re stronger than the storm you just gotta remember that you are!
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