13 Divine Secrets to Loving Yourself
Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and just wanted to cringe? Have you ever refused to look at yourself in the mirror?
Do you avoid speaking up because you don’t want others to dislike you… really, it’s because you dislike yourself?
Are you afraid of your potential?
Are you afraid of falling flat on your face?
Maybe you don't want to heal the things you don't like. It's easier to pretend everything is okay. It's easier to not take responsibility. Easier for someone else to love you, so you don't have to love yourself.
My friend, I totally get it. As a survivor of sexual trauma and blackout drunk nights, the sex with random guys, the judgment, looking in the mirror at my body, the shame… loving myself has been the hardest adventure.
Yes, adventure. Because it is a journey like everything else, we have to dig deep into it.
To me, self-love is not a self-care routine. It’s a look at yourself in the mirror, call yourself out on your BS, own it, accept all of you- good and bad, and start making choices that you feel good about and the self-love naturally happens.
Yes, naturally. Self-love is not an affirmation away. Nor is it a self-care routine away.
Self-love is 100% a journey. It takes time.
I want to share with you some secrets to help you along the way. Might even speed up the process. Just because it took me a while to figure out, doesn’t mean it has to be that way for you.
Just a little fun fact, this came as an inspiration when I was watching The Divine Secrets of Ya-Ya Sisterhood. If you haven’t watched it, it’s a cute and fun movie. I recommend it when you’re in search of something to watch!
The 13 Secrets
Accept your past. Without it, you wouldn't be exactly where you are now. In the past are some amazing, fun, crazy moments that you never want to forget. So why reject your history? Why let the bad outweigh the good?
Surround yourself with good, uplifting, inspirational, and supportive people. These people will help you live your best life and keep you grounded.
Learn all the thing you love and don’t love. This will help you draw boundaries and help you speak up for yourself about basic things. All you have to do is figure out what you do and don’t like.
Take care of yourself. Putting yourself first or making yourself a priority is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. (If you struggle with doing this, I recommend some self-discovery work.)
Accept all of you. The good, the bad, the fat, the cellulite, beautiful eyes, hair. All of you- physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. You can't reject a part of you and accept another part. It doesn't work that way.
Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Do things out of your comfort zone. It will help you build confidence. This might look like having a conversation you were afraid to have, healing your triggers, jumping out of a plane, etc.
Forgive yourself. There's no pressure to do this. However, if you learn to forgive yourself, it's easier to love yourself. This can be the hardest one to do, at least it was for me.
Own your truth. Know where you’ve come from, what you’ve been through and what you know and speak it with grace. (Self-discovery is a great way to start this.)
Have fun. Do things that light you up. Make you laugh. Things don’t have to be serious all the time.
Find healthy outlets. This will help you deal with your emotions and thoughts positively so you're more grounded.
Start facings your demons. You will find your real purpose here. It’s a tough road but worth it. Traveling the dark path has the most beautiful light at the end of it.
Connect with yourself spiritually. Yes, spiritually. It doesn't matter if you go to church every Sunday or at all. Most of the time, this the most lacking area of our lives and yet it is the most rewarding. Practice being in nature, gratitude, learn about your energy and high vibe frequencies, and how to speak manifestations into your life. Get into alignment.
Don’t force yourself to love you. You can't rush the process. It's okay to start with acceptance and work your way to love. You can't force yourself to forgive, to let go, etc. The more you embrace the journey to self-love, the easier you’ll step into the flow and work towards it.
When you practice these secrets, the more and more, you'll accept and love yourself. It might be a process; sometimes it starts with acceptance then love. This is an actual practice, most of us don't grow up loving ourselves. Self-love is much deeper than self-care. It's about the heart and soul of you. The more you do these things, the more confidence you'll grow, the more your life will expand and align. Love the journey… love the process. Love yourself.
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