Single Mom: 3 Things I Couldn’t do Without During Delivery
As you probably already know, there is so much information out there on what to expect during delivery, what you should do, what you should bring, what you shouldn’t bring, how to pack, so on and so on and so on! Before I get into my 3 things I couldn’t do without, I want you to know the most important thing you can do for yourself as a woman about to delivery a baby. Do what’s best for you. There isn’t better advise, I can promise that. Everyone is different, has different experiences, has different tolerances for pain, etc. So no matter what I tell you or anyone, remember if something feels like a good idea for you, do that. If it doesn’t sound good to you, then don’t do it and don’t feel bad about it either. Just because it worked for one woman doesn’t mean it will work for you. The intention is always to help, but sometimes that leads other women into thinking they have to do what other women are doing, regardless of how it makes them feel.
How do you decide what feels right? When you’re reading something and you think: Oh! I like that! Or that feels good, I’ll do that. For me, I based it on the way I slept. I say that because during the birthing class I took, the instructor kept saying things like: think of a relaxed and calm state. I had, already, put so much work into sleeping soundly while I was pregnant, I knew it would translate to delivery. (If you want more on sleeping soundly during pregnancy, click here.)
Here are the 3 things I couldn’t do without:
Lavender essential oil. I used a roller ball style and rolled it on the back of my neck. My support people would really rolled it, but when I knew I was going into labor I put it on the back of my neck. It was important for me because I wanted to stay as calm as possible. Lavender helps me do that. It helps so much I’ve used it before I went to meditation (yes, my baby daddy and I aren’t together. If you want the back story, click here.) I use it before I gave speeches and really any stressful and high anxiety event that I knew was taking place. How do you know when to put it on? When you feel like it. Listen to yourself and your body. You know what’s best for you. You can put it on anywhere that works for you, but the back of the neck is where I put it any other time, and it was easy for my support team to help me with that.
Ocean waves. I found the best wave sounds on YouTube and used that throughout my entire delivery. Well- until my phone died. I love the ocean. It’s very calming to me- my happy place. I would also use ocean waves while I slept and I also listened to binaural beats. But the waves were my fave and my most calming music. So I played that. I used a little speaker that blue -toothed to my phone. It was a bit louder than my phone to help with all the other noise going on. Talk to your doctor beforehand about what can/can’t come into the delivery room. Every hospital is different. I was blessed with the hospital I delivered at.
My mom. If I only had to pick one thing to bring with me during delivery it would be mom. She was supportive, she was calming, she helped me through everything. Even when I was getting a bit snappy. I wouldn’t have made it through without her. There were times where I thought I needed an epidural and she was talking me through it. I remember telling her if I didn’t start progressing, I was gonna need it. Then I had the doctor break my water; within minutes I was in “real” labor. My mom was there for support and to make sure everything went okay and focused on the things I was unable to focus on. (She is aware of my history with sexual abuse and what I wanted from my birth plan. If you want more on that, check this blog out.) Your support person doesn’t have to be your mom. It doesn’t have to be your partner, just make sure it someone that has your back and someone you fully and completely trust. This alone, will make things so much easier during delivery.
Again, whatever is best for you is perfect. It’s my hope these suggestions help you find ideas that will work for you during delivery. Essential oils, music and a support person can be vital to a successful and happy delivery! Good luck, momma!
If you have a question or can relate. Leave a comment below. I would love to hear from you. Let’s connect.
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Blogs: Single and Pregnant Blog Series, Single Mom Blog Series, Why Being Pregnant Has Turned My World Upside Down, Single and Pregnant: Sleep Edition, Single and Pregnant: Recovery-When Survivors Give Birth