Single and Pregnant: Sleep Edition- These 3 Tricks Helped Me During My Pregnancy

Gone are the days when I would sleep peacefully.  I would sleep at night and nap when I wanted to before I was pregnant; then I became pregnant and sleep became a little more difficult, especially in the last few weeks of my pregnancy.  Now that I’m a mom, I miss the days when I was peacefully sleeping without a care in the world.  Don’t get me wrong, I do sleep. My daughter does sleep through most nights at 2 months old.  We did have some setbacks and adjustments because of a visitation schedule.  Up every 1 and half to 2 hours fussing, crying, not being able to figure out what was wrong with her.  Especially when she would only sleep when I held her.   She does amazing, for the most part, and I’m currently learning better techniques to make sleeping through the night more consistent.  Once I can really slam dunk that, I will share.  Be on the lookout!

Anyway, I truly miss deep sleep where the only thing that woke me up were my dogs trying to go out in the morning. 

The search for better sleep started when my ex and I broke up about 13 weeks into the pregnancy and my brain was full of looping thoughts, anxiety and problems.  I had never experienced this problem before, to that extent. Breakup, drama, etc.  I could sleep about 80% of the time.  Apparently, when you’re pregnant and in postpartum things like fighting with the father of your child consumes your mind.  I had to find a way to get my mind to turn off.  That’s when the search of finding peaceful sleep began.  I wanted to share because I’ve heard so many women tell me I wouldn’t sleep or hear other pregnant women share their stories of not being able to sleep.

The 3 Tricks

  1. Use a body pillow.  Whichever type works best for you.  My mom bought me one and it didn’t show up and she ordered another one and I ended with 2!  I propped one of the body pillows up on my regular pillows and put one under my legs.  This helped me sleep on my back longer.  They were both U-shape body pillows that took care of half my body each.  Getting 2 really helped a lot.  Remember it doesn’t matter which type.  Use one that works for you and is in your budget.  You might use the pillows during postpartum too.  I did for a couple of weeks.

  2. Use white noise.  Something like beach waves and binaural beats.  Anything you find relaxing calming.  I used beach waves the most.  My daughter likes them too.  They help her get to sleep quicker. I didn’t have a partner to worry about, but if you do, I think your partner can roll with it for the next 9 months.  Because you’ll be happier and more rested.   Making your partner happier.

  3. Use lavender.  I used the essential oil lavender on the back of my neck.  I would use just a fingertip full and rub it on the back of my neck; it worked so well.  This was and still is my go-to.  Eventually I ordered the roller ball type.  Which is more convenient.  I even used it during delivery. If you do nothing else, I recommend but one thing, let this be it.  It really does work. 

All of these things helped me make it through it the night while I was pregnant.  Even when I was side sleeping in the middle of August of a 21-day heat streak. (Above 100 degrees).  I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have made it through these days if I hadn’t already established these amazing tricks in my sleeping routine. Remember: body pillow, white noise, and lavender.

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